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Ask Virginia Ironside

Regulars | By Virginia Ironside | January 2018

Sex has torn us apart Q  My wife and I are in our mid-seventies and both of us are in what I consider to be rude health, both physical and mental. Some years back, my wife suddenly announced, in front of a group of friends, that she’d had enough of sex and was giving it up. All the ladies of similar age applauded her but the men looked a bit downcast, and for me it was a bolt from the blue because we’d always enjoyed a close sexual relationship. I wasn’t ready to give up sex. The DIY version gets me down because I feel like a naughty schoolboy. I’ve always been faithful and I’ve tried to explain my needs via a letter because I’m too reserved to talk to her face to face, but no change. The worst thing is that occasionally she’ll initiate sex, but it’s all a...

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